You’ve probably heard it before: “The gym is intimidating.”
And to be fair… sometimes it is.
The mirrors, the machines, the cliques… it can feel like a place where you just keep your head down, get your workout in, and leave.
Going it alone feels safer. No pressure, no judgment. Just you and the treadmill.
But here’s the thing: unless you’re in your 20s with hours of free time, trying to do this journey solo rarely works.
Because progress needs people.
Since 2012, I’ve coached hundreds of people through long-term change, and here’s the truth most gyms don’t tell you: the workouts aren’t the hard part.
It’s the connection that keeps people coming back.
The first time you walk into a group class, it can feel daunting. But then something happens.
You get a smile. Someone remembers your name. You make one friend… then another.
Pretty soon, you’re not just showing up for the workout. You’re showing up for each other.
Compare that to the “open gym” experience:
You walk in.
Nobody notices you.
You do your thing, maybe get a nod from a stranger.
Someone hogs the machine you need.
You leave feeling exactly the same as when you arrived… maybe worse.
I know, because I lived it.
For eight years, I ran a gym like that. I knew everyone’s name, yet I still felt invisible.
I’d walk in, keep my head down, train half-heartedly, and leave wondering why I even bothered.
These days, we build connections into everything we do. Because that’s what actually creates lasting change.
Yes, lifting weights matters. Yes, eating well matters. But without people in your corner, cheering you on, it’s too easy to quit when life gets tough.
Hiding in the corner might feel safe in the short term. But if you want strength that lasts? You need a place and people that help you grow.
So if you’re feeling stuck, burnt out, or like nothing ever “sticks,” maybe it’s not motivation you’re missing.
Maybe it’s people.