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Gemma Perry

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April 14, 2025

Overcoming the “All or Nothing Mindset” Around Food

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, Well, I already ate something ‘bad,’ so the whole day is ruined…” you’re familiar with the all-or-nothing mindset around food. This way of thinking makes eating feel like walking a tightrope where any slip means failure. And honestly, it’s exhausting and discouraging. Here’s the thing: food doesn’t have to be “all or nothing,” and overcoming that mindset is key to a balanced, sustainable approach to nutrition.

Why the all or nothing mindset fails us

When you view food choices in black & white terms, “good” versus “bad”, it’s easy to feel like a small mistake is catastrophic. One slice of pizza or a skipped workout might make you feel like you’ve thrown all your progress out the window, so why not just go all in and start fresh on Monday, right? The problem with this mindset is that it leads to cycles of extreme restriction followed by guilt-driven bingeing, making it nearly impossible to build consistency.

The truth is, real progress happens not through perfect choices, but through the choices you make most of the time. By letting go of perfection, you give yourself room to actually enjoy what you’re eating without spiralling into guilt.

How to break free from all or nothing thinking

  1. Challenge the labels
    When you stop labelling foods as “good” or “bad,” it removes the pressure around eating. Foods don’t have moral value; they’re simply different combinations of nutrients that you can enjoy in balance. Think of your nutrition like a bank account - you can make different “deposits” (choices) without needing each one to be perfect.
  2. Practise the 80/20 approach
    Rather than striving for 100% “clean eating,” aim for balance. An 80/20 approach means focusing on nourishing foods 80% of the time, while leaving room for the foods you love the other 20%. This way, you’re fueling your body most of the time without depriving yourself of the things that bring you joy.
  3. Move past “all or nothing” with one step at a time
    The next time you eat something outside your plan, take a deep breath and remind yourself that it’s just one choice. Then get right back to your regular meals without making it a big deal. Over time, this one-step-at-a-time approach helps break the cycle,

The all-or-nothing mindset can keep you stuck in a frustrating loop of restriction, guilt, and bingeing. By giving yourself grace and allowing for balance, you’ll find that consistency - rather than perfection - leads to real progress. You can enjoy your meals, meet your goals, and leave the guilt behind.

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